As of today, I am not 36. And this new year is going to be the Year of Dotbic. The Year of DOing The Best I Can. I don't mean in that crazy frenzied "I must do my very best every day or I am a complete failure".
I'm talking about accepting that doing the best I can is the best that I can do. I'm talking about abandoning the cyles of trying harder because nothing is ever good enough. I'm talking about embracing "best" instead of obsessing over "perfect".
Its sounds almost scandalous to be willing to relax into serenity, to just let things go, the first step on a slippery slope to ... I'm not sure exactly what. But my mother warned me about it often.
I've decided to live on the edge anyway. No more personal stress. No more being hard on myself. No more flinching over un-done to-do lists. No more frantic late-night cram-sessions. No more agonizing over charts and schedules and adgendas. No more.
The Year of Dotbic is going to be a very good year. I bought a really super-great journal, all water-colory and lovely. Each day we'll see. I suspect that a year from today I'll have an affirmative answer to my experiment: Is life like a chinese-finger-puzzle? You know, the more you struggle the tighter it gets but if you just relax and let go ...
(Hmmmm. I've only been doing this a few hours and already I sound like a hippie ...)
Happy Birthday!!! :-)
Happy Birthday, Lucy.
How are you doing at Dotbic? Moving from Perfect to Dotbic will be liberating. And then you just may realize that some things you can just do, not even the best you can, just do, so it's done and you can spend your energy and time on the things you want (no, make that NEED) to dotbic. Save perfect for spiritual matters, (Matthew 5:4) because you have the grace of Jesus (when you fail) and the help of the holy spirit in those.
When I lost my job, I thought I had to compensate by being perfect as a SAHM until my husband said, "You know, you can just serve us soup and sandwiches for supper. You don't have to make every meal Martha Stewart." I took him at his word and started blogging and reading and gardening and taking classes. I think I'm a better wife, mother and person for that change. Sure, I can still do the Martha Stewart thing, but I save it for a special treat and enjoy doing it.
Is this preachy? That's not my intention. I'm more working out my own philosophy in your comments. Thanks for the space!
I simply cannot believe I missed your birthday!!!! I'm a bad friend. I would have baked a cake, I would have sent a gift. *sigh*
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Happy Birthday, Granola Woman ;)