How long have you been together?
My whole life. Since the first moment I looked in his eyes. Because then I became me. Whoever was me before was somehow ... less and different. OR, since Richard and Amy's Christmas party. We met when we both worked at a bookstore. Amy was married to his best friend and doing temp work at the bookstore. She specifically had the party to get me to meet their group of friends, hoping things would work out. Since everyone knew everyone else except me they planned to exchange gifts. Amy bought me a lovely scarf so I wouldn't feel left out, but my future-husband slipped me a small box and a smile. Amy was sitting next to me when I opened it and almost passed out! All I could say was "Did you tell him!?!" as she shook her head speechlessly. I had gone shopping with Amy that afternoon and the ONLY thing I looked at twice was silver tips for my black boots. Right now this very minute they're sitting in my jewelry box. OR, it would be true to say that we've been married 16 years.

(Continued below, since I'll probably give ridiculously long answers.)

How long did you know each other before you started dating?
A few weeks. And thank goodness he asked me out instead of that cashier who was a few months younger than me. Lucky for me he had this rule about not dating anyone younger than his sister!

Who asked who out?
Well. In theory he asked me out. OR I called him and pointed out that my friend had cancelled our plans so I suddenly found I had some free time on what was coincidentially his day off. Not that I would have arranged to have that day off also.

How old are each of you?
I'm 39! And he's 41?

Whose siblings do you see the most?
Well. We don't live close to any of them. His have visited here more, but we see my brother every time we visit my parents.

Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Definitely the work load. He works an obscene amount of hours! I think that may be changing soon. I hope so, but I guess I'm used to it. His mother told me that she couldn't believe I take it so well. I'm not sure exactly what she thought fit-throwing would accomplish. He's perfectly willing to give us every minute of time he can. What else can I ask?

Did you go to the same school?
We went to the same college. He met me when he was starting his senior year, having just decided he wouldn't date anyone so he could relocate anywhere with no strings. Later he told me that the first thing he thought when he met me was " ... trouble ..."

Are you from the same home town?
Not a chance!

Who is smarter?
Well, now. THAT'S a loaded question! I think its important to understand that there are different ways of being "smart". If the question is who is smarter at math or science or business, it would be him. If the question is who is smarter at literature or psychology or Sesame Street lyrics, it would be me.

Who is the most sensitive?
Me. Me. Me.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?
LOL. We rarely eat out "as a couple"! The whole herd of us often eat at Pizza Hut on Wednesday nights. Kids eat free, pizza buffet, "where everyone knows your name" and what you regularly drink! Yeah, now THAT'S a sign that we eat there too much, and that we tip ok.

Where is the furtherest you two have traveled together as a couple?
For a vacation? Florida. For a move? Right now that would be Oregon. Although its not for lack of him trying to drag me places! He was going to take me with him to Belgium, then we found out I was pregnant with Ron so I wouldn't travel. Then I kept getting pregnant, and I have a rule that I won't leave a child until they're five years old. I think they need a firm grasp of time, specifically when I'll be back. The list of places I HAVEN'T been boggles my mind! Although, the best trip we never took together was definitely Greece. He almost always talks to me before I go to bed so I'll sleep better. He called me from a lounge-chair by the pool, watching the moon rise over the ocean, listening to the waves. That was the second coolest phone call ever. The next afternoon I got a THE coolest phone call ever when he called me from ATLANTA to say that he'd cut his trip short, because the only place he wanted to be was with me.

Who has the worst temper?
Depends on "worst". Mine is DEFINITELY more volotile! But, its also over much much quicker. Sometimes I think he married me for my 15-minute temper. The first time we had a ...discussion ... (about another girl who was throwing herself at him, and yes she SO was) he waited a few days, and brought me flowers. I remember looking at them thrilled, because I just love getting flowers and it was the first time from him. It took me a minute to get it, but I looked at him and asked "Did you get these because we had a fight?" He looked a little like a deer caught in headlights and nodded. I had to explain to him that the argument was on Friday, and it was already Tuesday, and he needed to let it go and move on. He was shocked, in a good way. (I understand now that I've met his mother. She has a REALLY good memory.)

Who does the cooking?
Hah! He doesn't boil water. And thats ok. I like boiling water.

Who is the neat-freak?
We have four children. We don't get to be neat-freaks. However, there are small islands of order in the chaos. My pantry is organized by box-shelf, can-shelf, bottle-shelf, bag-shelf. Each shelf is further organzied by catagory, like canned tomatoes, canned tomato paste, rotel, etc. I remember being very very little and not understanding how it was possible that my mother could function when she just dumped the new cans willy-nilly into the cabinet without organizing them. i still wonder at her lack of organizational skills. Maybe it skips a generation?

Who is more stubborn?
LOL!?! There's plenty to go around. Fortunately, we're rarely stubborn with each other. And when we are, no good comes of THAT!

Who wakes up earlier?
Definitely him. And then he turns on the lights!

Where was your first date?
Movies as friends, followed a few days later by a Christmas party, followed a few days later with dinner at my favorite restaurent :)

Who is more jealous?
We say its me, but in reality I think its a toss-up!

How long did it take to get serious?
Instantly, for the thought. A few weeks, for the reality. It really creeped out his friends. We acted more "married" than his married friends! For example, I remember being at a party at Kent and Wendy's standing in the kitchen chatting. Grabbing him a Dr. Pepper, popping in to the living room, switching it out with his empty bottle, him touching my arm ( no eye-contact) and me popping back in to the kitchen without losing the train-of-conversation. The reason I remember it so very extra-clearly was that Wendy stopped the conversation to ask why I took him a new Dr. Pepper. And the answer was "uh, because he wanted one" "But, how did you KNOW he wanted one?" What messed with them the most wasn't that I took him soda, or that he did little things for me. It was that easy awareness and concern with the other person's well-being.

Who does the laundry?
I think he knows we have a laundry room, but I wouldn't bet my life on it.

Who's better with the computer?
HE is, although once he got me a job as tech-support for a software company. His friends still shudder.

Who drives when you are together?
Mostly him. Because I DON'T want to be a race car driver :)


Nice! Just for fun, maybe I'll blog on this one. My blogging time is so sparse these days!

Leni | 02/20/2009 - 02:26 PM

You tell the best stories. ;-)

Knighton | 02/20/2009 - 06:31 PM
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