If someone says your idea is obviously "dumb" and your project is "stupid" and calmly implies (as if its a simple staement of truth) that you're a bad wife, and a bad mother, and a bad housekeeper (and even giving the the benefit of the doubt about that food comment), and then says "I love you" ...
I think its reasonable to wonder "Why?"
Yes, it is reasonable to wonder - what the hell was that person trying to imply? I think that people are trying to covertly nice but end up being rude.
I know that when I read a paper I usually make a pretty quick judgement based on my knowledge of the field and my model of how things work. In other words, I look at the conclusions first to see whether they conflict with or agree with my model.
I appreciate all the information that you just shared with me very much and I’ll be back to read more in the future.