Casual Conversations

Sometimes casual conversations are ... casual. Talking about what's for dinner. Or the theme for birthday parties. Or when Daddy's coming home from work.

Sometimes casual conversations are ... shocking. One of "those" conversations happened a few weeks ago we where on our way home from VBS.

I was driving along, mentally debating the pros and cons of chocolate-dipped pretzel rods versus chocolate-dipped pretzel twists. Suddenly from the backseat ...

Boy (Ron): I'm glad we're starting martial arts lessons.
Mom (Lucy): (Showing good "mommy-skills" with follow-up questions) Why is that?

Boy: You know, because the war is coming. Its good to be prepared.
Mom: (full stop at intersection, full attention on boy) What war?

Boy: (looking reassuringly and softly at rather ... focused ... Mom) War is always coming.
Mom: (vaguely creeped out, but refusing to add weight to his thoughts) Hrumph. True enough. But not today. I think we should have meatballs for dinner tomorrow. Do y'al want sandwiches or spaghetti?

Just that easily, the topic shifted to why peanut-butter-and-jelly is better than meatball sandwiches. Yet I'm still aware of that look. The one that he gave me, as if he were eighty years old and I were a small child who didn't understand. Not judging, mind you. Nor condescending. Just ... knowing.

Even if he had been taught graphically about wars (which I certainly specifically DON'T do at their age), at nine years old he shouldn't have such a clear understanding and acceptance. I suppose that's what really messed with me. He didn't seem phased or alarmed or excited or ... anything ... about the prospect. It was like he had said "The sky is blue, the grass is green, war will come, knowing martial arts will be handy, I like grape-sno-cones"

Casual glimpses into children's minds can be unsettleling.


They know and understand so much more than we realize.

Leni | 08/22/2007 - 02:55 PM

ARGH!!!! Hard-drive crashed. I'm at the library. Desperately ordering the rest of the home-schooling stuff I'll need next week! GAH!!!!!

So. I figure I should be back online in the hygenic privacy of my own home in about five days.

Lucy | 08/22/2007 - 11:32 PM

Five days have come and gone, dear friend...hope you're just busy with school!

Leni | 09/13/2007 - 04:24 PM
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